Here we are halfway through our #30daysofGrowth. As I explained at the outset, read more here, this was just an idea that popped in my head, and I made the decision to do it in 5 seconds. Why? Of course, I hoped to gain some viewers and grow my audience. However, I also wanted to push myself a bit. I wanted to force my hand to write more and about different topics. As I wrote in Do the Hard Thing, I’ve been learning the confidence-growing power of taking on a new challenge.
Today’s habit is “believe in yourself,” otherwise known as confidence. This is a cyclical thing. You believe you can do one thing. You do it. You now believe you can do more.
“Whether you think you can or not, you’re right.” -Henry Ford
So, here’s how I want you to work on this. I want you to use Mel Robbin’s 5 second rule. I’m going to link to more about the rule at the bottom. You’re going to think of something you’ve been wanting to do. Anything that you’ve been wanting to do, but haven’t because it’s a little scary. Then you do it! Use the 5 second rule to help you get your butt in motion! Last step, be proud of yourself.
- Decide to take a courageous step.
- Do it.
- Be proud of yourself.
Afterward, you’re going to have more confidence. Guaranteed. That’s it. That’s how you believe in yourself. You show up. You do something important to you, not anyone else! You respect yourself enough to follow through. You make yourself proud. Confidence grows, and now you can do more.
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” –E.E. Cummings
I did this recently in my social life. About six months ago at a gym function, I met another member whom I’ve never worked out with before. We hung out in a big group and Facebook friended each other, and that was the end of it. It may sound odd, but I am Facebook friends with a few members of my gym whom I’ve never met in person. We use Facebook to help encourage each other and stay accountable. So, sometimes internet relationships evolve. Over the last six months, I have seen posts from this woman in our private page and her posts about life and memes, and often thought, I think we would really get along if we ever crossed paths again. Months of me thinking, I really like how this lady thinks, sure hope we cross paths one day. Finally, I decided to take a courageous step, and before I could think myself out of it, I did it. I replied to one of her posts something along the lines of we really should hang out together, because I think we have a lot in common. Bing bang boom, we plan to get together for Happy Hour.
The day rolls around, and my husband comes home from work not feeling well. Here it is, I think. Here’s my introvert excuse to call it off. I mean, I barely know this woman. This is crazy scary for me. I know you extroverts can’t comprehend this, but just believe me. This was way out of my comfort zone. I start to get my phone and text the lady something along the lines of “sorry, can’t leave my hermit hole today, maybe another time.” I took a deep breath, and thought, you know what, no! Not this time! These children are old enough to stay home alone, so they can stay home with a less than fully functional father. My husband wasn’t sick enough to come home early, so he’s well enough to tend to himself for two hours! I’m going to go have a drink with this woman, and I did. And I had the best time telling and listening to stories and laughing my butt off. Bing bang boom, this introvert has actually made a new friend. Maybe I’m not destined to be a hermit my whole life, because now I believe a little bit more in my social abilities!
“It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” –Oprah Winfrey
I don’t know what your courageous act should be, only you can decide. Don’t make it so big that you can’t do it in the next few days, though. I want you to see for yourself what I’m talking about. You can tackle a long-term goal, too. But for purposes of this exercise, make it something you can do today or soon. Decide, do, and most importantly, be proud of yourself.
Here’s another courageous act on my part, I’m going to post this cheesy poem I wrote. If I can do that, you can do your act of courage!
Believe in yourself or no one else will
Believe in yourself or you are destined to fail
Know your strengths and abilities
Play to your strengths and imagine the possibilities
Today, it is a thought
Tomorrow, take a shot
Give yourself permission to believe
It’s the first step if you want to achieve
Shed the self-doubt
Believe in yourself and show the world what you are about
“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” –Barrie Davenport
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