I often describe “shifting perspective” as flipping magnets. That’s what today’s habit is about, flipping your perspective of any situation to the positive.
The action word in this idiom is “look.” It’s not always going to be self-evident. You may have to put some effort into it.
Hey, good looking!
The people I live with are not good lookers. Yes, they are attractive. I mean, they don’t look for things well. I’m often called upon with a loud bellowing “MOOOOOM” to come help a child find something. Something that’s likely right in front of their face. The husband is the worst, but he doesn’t call me mom, at least. He just askes and askes and askes where something is until I get tired of trying to describe where it is and just come do it for him.
Part of the problem, especially with the small members of the family, is it’s easier to have Mom find it than for them to look for it. Perhaps, that’s part of our problem in flipping our minds to be more optimistic about our circumstances. Perhaps, it’s just easier to not look for the good.
Well, the best looker in my house has found some ways to help you look for that bright side.
Author and blogger at positivelypresent.com, Dani DiPirro gives the following 5 steps to be more positive in this article, https://tinybuddha.com/blog/train-yourself-to-be-more-positive-in-5-steps/
- Believe a positive attitude is a choice.
- Rid your life of negativity.
- Look for the positive in life.
- Reinforce positivity in yourself.
- Share positivity with others.
One of the ways, I’ve been working on this habit is through gratitude. When I find myself in a frustrating situation or letting negative thoughts take over, I find something for which to be thankful. For example, I’m stuck in traffic, my blood is starting to boil, and I’m starting to think of all the ways this is going to just ruin my whole day. Stop, deep breath, and remember, I’m safe. I’m not stuck on this road because of an accident or car trouble, and I send up a little prayer of gratitude for those facts.
Here are 101 quotes to further encourage you to LOOK on the bright side:
In this article, http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/stay-positive Mental Health America encourages readers to look on the bright side by asking the following questions:
- How have I grown from this situation?
- Are my relationships stronger now?
- Have I developed new skills?
- What am I proud of about the way I handled this situation?
“Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.” – Henri Nouwen